“The changes that matter most are more often changes in perception than changes in the world outside us.” – Paul McKenna
After he fails to introduce Carrie to his date and tries to get rid of her, she knows something is off.
A few days later he tells her that even though his date is intelligent, caring and great in bed; she is not the kind of woman he would date openly [or consider beautiful].
In fact, even though she makes him feel more like himself than any other woman ever has, he is embarrassed to admit to even spending time with her.
She is his invisible woman.
The cheap date you take out to questionable bars outside of your usual hunting grounds; where you avoid eye contact with others as you walk to your place across sticky floors and hope that no one you know suddenly shows up.
The kind of date-arrangement that thrives on small talk and impersonal sex but withers away when it is confronted with too much authenticity and vulnerability.
Watching this episode of Sex and the City got me thinking:
How many of us do this – not to others – but to ourselves?
How many times do we treat ourselves like the cheap date, as we wait for a better version of ourselves to materialise?